"Even after you've fallen into a real love chances are you'll still find other people attractive. That's okay; it's a good test. Don't feel bad if that happens. Just let those feelings for others pass (Feelings come and go easily and you cannot base a real relationship off of them.), and realize that what you have with the one you love is something that won't fade away. While you like what you see in other people, it's only surface stuff compared to the relationship you've worked so hard at."
*How do you even know if the relationship you are in is real?*
Steps 1. Be patient, kind, trustworthy, etc. regardless of how you feel at the moment. Never give up. If you really care for someone you must show those characteristics. Feelings will come and go, but love should not be based on feelings. It should be based on a mutual respect for one another, which one can show by being patient, kind, etc.
2. Communicate with the one you want to love. You will be able to fix problems and grow together. That will make you both stronger. Even if you feel like walking out, don't.
3. Agree to disagree. You and the one you love cannot agree all the time, but it is a must that you understand differences.
4. Make sure you think alike and have common interests, but don't be copies of one another.
5. Make an effort to make things work between you. It won't always be easy.
6. Concentrate on the things that brought you together (i.e. God, common interests, whatever works for you); that will make your relationship stronger.
Tips• If you lose feelings for the person, keep doing loving things for that person and the feelings will come back to support the love.
• Even after you've fallen into a real love chances are you'll still find other people attractive. That's okay; it's a good test. Don't feel bad if that happens. Just let those feelings for others pass (Feelings come and go easily and you cannot base a real relationship off of them.), and realize that what you have with the one you love is something that won't fade away. While you like what you see in other people, it's only surface stuff compared to the relationship you've worked so hard at.
Warnings• Love is a two way street. You can follow the steps and still not have things work out. That is not your fault. The other person has to give as much to the relationship as you do.
• Sometimes people are just not romantically compatible.
• A real love must have intimacy, passion, and commitment. Without all three the love is not ideal, and probably will not last.
P.s. Thanks for the reply, my loyal reader.
Things jus happen so sudden
although at times
we don't like how it turned out
we can't do anything about it
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Life just goes on
the same rountine
every other day
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What's left are the memories
memories that we once hold dearly
memories that are never gonna come back
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Now i'm left with one unanswered question
"What is everlasting love?"
Was viewing sihua's blog and to my horror i found this.
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Ngee Ann.. i hate you.
seriously i do.
wad lousy timetable is this man. -.=
wad is wrong with me.
i have never felt this way before.
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vexed,
confused,
disappointment,
losted.
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i just don't know wad to do anymore.
i have tonnes of questions flowing through my mind,
but yet there are no answers for them.
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is all this coming to an end?
i wonder.
results are out and they suck totally.
dun even ask me about it,
i'll ignore u.
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*define love*
1. strong affection for another arising out of kinship or personal ties
2. affection based on admiration, benevolence, or common interests
3. warm attachment, enthusiasm, or devotion
4. unselfish loyal and benevolent concern for the good of another
(just ignore this. i have nth better to do)
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so much has happened the entire of last week.
but yet i have no idea how to blog it out.
all i can say is,
it's an obstacle that we hav to overcome.
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love all~
